Hello and welcome to the inaugural post of A Way With Wards. We couldn’t be happier that you’re taking the time to get to know our family, and we hope that we can help you in planning, preparing, and coping with the changes that come with this new stage of life.
Whatever phase you’re in, whether you’re just starting to think about having a family, or if you’ve run the gauntlet and are sitting back and enjoying your grandkids, we’ll try to make it worth your while. And hey, we’re new to the parenting game, and we’d love to hear your insights. We’re by no means experts, but we’ve done a ton of research and want to help other folks take this awesome step.
If you’re interested in learning more about our family, you can hop over to our About page here.
Now for the good stuff, story time!
We have been together for just about 4 years, and for much of that time we were trying to start our family. We were scouring web resources for all the info we could find, picking out books, you name it. So pregnancy shouldn’t have been a surprise for us, right? Wrong! By the time we actually got pregnant we had gone through so many false positives, late cycles, and pregnancy tests that we’d started to lose hope.
When the moment finally came, we were both so shocked by it that we didn’t know what to do. We were practically in denial. I hadn’t been feeling right all day, and decided to go get a pregnancy test on my lunch break. Already preparing myself for the inevitable “Not Pregnant” reveal, I almost didn’t even check the test. When I looked down and saw two lines, I thought it had to be a mistake. We’d seen two lines before, but never this clearly. I realized I was shaking, and immediately started thinking about what I should do.
Should I tell Trevor while he was at work? Should I keep it to myself in case it was another false positive? Should I take another test? I don’t know how you would have done it, but I couldn’t keep it to myself (I’ve always had trouble keeping exciting news a secret). I thought about it while I drove back to work, I was still on my lunch break, and when I got back I decided that I had to text Trevor.
Obviously I didn’t get to see his face when he read my text, but I’m pretty confident I know what his reaction was. The same as mine! We were both so despondent about our previous experience with pregnancy tests that we didn’t want to let ourselves be hopeful about these results. I ended up taking another test that night, which also came out as a clear positive. We were elated, but still wary. Over the weekend, we went out of town to visit my parents, and we broke the news to them. Trevor was so excited about it that while we were at breakfast with my parents, he called his parents to tell them. “But what if it was a false positive?!” You might be wondering. Getting our families involved at such an early stage? Almost no one does that!
Even more, we still weren’t certain. That night, as we were on our way back home (it’s about a 3 hour drive) we stopped at a gas station, picked up another box of tests, and I took a 3rd test right there at the gas station at 11 o’clock at night. Another positive! And these tests had really good ratings for accurate results! Finally, after so many let downs, we were pregnant!
As a funny addition to this, we still scheduled a confirmation of pregnancy appointment for the following week, but even that didn’t make it seem real. Theres a few different takeaways to all of this:
- Don’t be surprised if your reaction to finding out you pregnant doesn’t match up with what you thought you’d feel. Everyone’s situations are different, and not everyone is going to have that picture perfect “reveal” moment.
- If you’ve been trying for awhile, don’t lose hope. Getting pregnant isn’t always as quick or easy as modern entertainment would have you believe. While it definitely can happen on the very first try, it can also take weeks, months, or even years of trying before you finally get there. It can be hard. In our case we got extremely lucky and were totally surprised after more than a years worth of trying, but many eager hopefuls take longer than that.
- It’s always a good idea to consult a doctor! Whether you’re just starting out, or you’re trying to confirm a pregnancy, it’s important to include your doctor in your planning and decision making. They’re here to help you make the best choices. Especially once your pregnancy is confirmed, good prenatal care is key to a healthy pregnancy.
If you’re interested in what tests we used, and what our results were, we’ll cover that in a subsequent post.